For many years now, I’ve seen hundreds of men succeed and fail at attracting and having women fall in and out of love with them.
This includes stories from men who’ve asked me for advice, women I’ve dated and the countless encounters I’ve heard in the wild.
The problem is, I like to think.
With every story, I think about the different approaches men took. Why and how these men succeeded or failed.
I think about what women say worked and didn’t work for them.
I compared how everything was different from my successes and failures. I saw similar patterns too.
And I came to a few realizations.
The most important one is:
Being great at dating is not about knowing what to say or do. It’s ultimately about who you are.
Magic lines don’t exist. The right mentality and attitude will give you the right things to say, which attracts her more than any pickup line or technique.
But we want to go beyond attraction.
Attraction is a great first step. But it is also fleeting. It comes and goes very easily.
I’m sure you’ve experienced this as well:
You get to know a woman, and she shows an interest in you initially… she texts you all the time, she’s very responsive. In fact, she even initiates touching when the both of you are together. But one day, all that just stops. And you have no idea what happened to make her behaviour change completely. Before you know it, she’s ghosted you.
That’s the temporary effect of attraction.
So we want to build desire instead.
Because desire goes deeper.
While attraction makes a woman want to find out more about you, desire can make a woman want you so bad, she will chase you. Hard.
That’s the effect you want, and you can have that… with the Authentic Gentleman Blueprint.
The Authentic Gentleman Blueprint has only one goal — to make you desirable to women.
We do that by focusing on 3 important aspects of your person. They are your archetype, social awareness mastery, and mindset shifts.
An archetype is a character. In every culture, there are attractive and unattractive archetypes.
Perhaps the most popular attractive archetype of all time is the “bad boy”. Men have long believed the bad boy makes women swoon and fall head over heels.
In recent times, the bad boy archetype has evolved into the Chad, someone women will do anything for. While they treat the average man as if he were invisible.
The “finance bro” is another example.
(Remember that meme, “I’m looking for a man in finance, 6’5”, blue eyes”?)
But an attractive archetype is really just a collection of attractive qualities.
The bad boy is fearless, edgy and confident. The finance bro has money, lives a fancy lifestyle, and is fiercely ambitious.
If you find these archetypes repulsive, then here’s the good news.
You don’t have to sell your soul and become someone you’re not.
You can customize your archetype by taking good qualities from others, and making them your own.
So you can be fearless, edgy and confident like the bad boy. But with a heart of gold. That makes you an attractive good guy.
You can also be an attractive nerd. The difference is you discard the unattractive qualities of the stereotypical nerd, and adopt the ones that make you a much better version of yourself.
The Authentic Gentleman Blueprint helps you do that simply, by taking the best of who you are and combining them with the attractive qualities you wish to become.
Social awareness is the unspoken “rules” of social communication. It is a secret language. An attractive man is expected to know these rules and understand how important it is for others.
An example of social awareness is recognizing a woman’s fears when she first meets a man from a dating app.
We may not grasp how unsafe a woman feels about this, but if you understand her fears AND can navigate around it, that demonstrates social intelligence.
Here’s a more subtle one:
As people, we run towards good feelings.
So if your profile bio talks about the negative side of dating and how people behave badly towards each other, women are likelier to swipe left.
What you say may be true. But she wants to have a positive dating experience, so she’s less likely to match and possibly deal with your frustrations around dating.
And since you’re strangers, she’s not going to hope your positive side shows up eventually, because that’s a big IF.
All these may seem tiresome and difficult, but having social awareness helps you know how to talk to women. It is a major difference between women getting turned off or thinking you’re her Chad.
A good way to master social awareness is to pay close attention to what women say and understand the meaning between their lines.
Unfortunately, you can only learn through experience, which is accumulated through years of interactions with women and constant self-reflection.
Fortunately, a coach can help you halve the time and effort needed easily.
As Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.”
Your mind influences your reality. It sounds like metaphysical bullshit, but over the years, I keep seeing evidence that our minds are incredibly powerful.
I used to believe I could never attract beautiful women of quality. And so each time I met such a woman, I would fail.
When I finally got tired of failing, I decided I had to work on my mentality.
It took time, but I began to see success. My dates with really attractive women went beyond more than one date. Then it escalated.
Today, I am very lucky to have a wonderful and amazing girlfriend, who’s both beautiful inside and out.
With Mindset Shifts, we want to reframe your mind. To help you approach dating with self-belief, and confidence that her desire matches yours.
For example, we see women as allies. That means she is on your side.
If the both of you matched on Tinder, it’s NOT because she wants validation only. It’s because she wants someone to take her off the apps.
That someone… can be you.
(Sure, women love validation. But don’t we feel good as men, when we get validated too?)
That’s why I always build togetherness with the women I’m interested in.
Instead of only talking about her or myself, I use the words “we”, “us”, and “you and I” when there’s the opportunity.
I make it clear we need to work together as a team, because that’s what relationships are about. And women love it.
Because they want the same too.
This has helped me build rapport with my matches so much faster. I don’t have to spend weeks chatting with her.
Our connection feels deeper because they relate to my beliefs and values.
While other men talk about what they do on weekends, I go beyond the superficial with my texting.
A better connection makes her want to meet me.
That means I rarely get flaked.
You can experience the same too.
What if you can go on more dates than ever before? What if women asked you out instead?
Together with the Affinity Method, we strive to create the most attractive version of yourself.
This version of you is what makes dating simpler and easier.
Instead of learning a long list of techniques, and going through each one painstakingly when you meet a woman… you simply show up, lead her through your game-plan, and enjoy your evening with her.
That’s the reality we want for you.
That’s the reality you get to live in.
Not the constant flaking. Nor the ghosting. Or spending weeks talking, only for her interest to fade away.
This time, they want to stay in your life.
This time, they desire for you.
All because you’ve done the work and showed them how amazing you are.
If that idea resonates with you, then I invite you to have a consultation call with us.
It’s FREE, and there is no obligation to buy anything. For 1 hour, we will find out where you need help the most.
You will not be pressured into any program, and you’ll get a customized game-plan on how to immediately improve your dating life.
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