"Desire is irrelevant. I am a machine."
In a moment, I'll explain why I quoted Terminator 3 and how it's super relevant to online dating.
And why... as a single man, that quote should scare the bejesus out of you.
If you've been dating online, you know it can be a soul-crushing experience. Of ignored messages and an empty inbox.
This problem is not going away any time soon.
Like the Terminator movies, reality is about to get harsher.
Because online dating is evolving.
And its culture is being shaped mercilessly by demand. (More on this later.)
Tinder is the first sign of things to come.
It has made online dating incredibly easy
with its “swipe and match”.
As a result, Tinder attracted an estimated 50 million users
within 2 years.
Other dating apps were “forced” to copy it.
Apps such as Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Happn and Bumble.
Even OkCupid, an online dating giant, updated its app to allow swiping.
But Tinder is being criticized for its superficial nature. For encouraging “hooking up”.
The question is:If dating apps are meant to create meaningful relationships, why is every dating app becoming like Tinder now?
The answer lies with you... the customer
It's about capturing a massive subscriber base.
(Online dating generates hundreds of millions of dollars in revenue
So dating apps will continue to give people what they want.
What do people want?
They want easy
This is why people buy lottery tickets.
This is why people would rather take a pill to lose weight, than put in effort to exercise and eat right.But along with easy, comes sacrifice... at your expense.
Remember I said earlier demand is shaping online dating culture?
Tinder is doing that right now.
And it has influenced other companies. Dating apps are placing a bigger emphasis on photos now.
Because it's easy
And the scary thing is... they can make it easier. Here's how.
It is increasingly likely the future of online dating will be in the hands of A.I.
What if A.I could make Tinder easier?
What if in the near future, a dating app allows a woman to specify the exact type of men she wishes to meet?
It would show her a sample of photos. Of different types of men.
And determine her taste based on how she swipes. Then, the app only shows her the type she likes.
Most men won't even get on her radar.
If you think women online are unrealistically picky now, imagine this.
What if a woman – who's maybe a 5 in looks – uses the A.I to look for men who are only 8 and above?
What if such an app becomes so popular, every app starts doing the same?
What if... women get so spoilt for choice, they take that extremely picky attitude into the real world?
Scared? You should be.
More and more people are dating online. It's a matter of time before A.I is used in dating apps.But A.I does not give a shit whether you get a date or not.
It is a machine. Your desire is irrelevant.
Whoever uses A.I is only gonna care about making profits.
Right now, Tinder's algorithm is doing something similar
OkCupid is already separating users based on attractiveness. (See image below.
If online dating is messed up now, imagine a future where you won't even get scraps.This future is already happening in Japan
, under somewhat different circumstances.
While other men struggled to get a reply, I was building deeper connections with women over wine.
That's possible only because I spent more than half a decade getting rejected hundreds of times.
But all that pain and anguish paid off... as I developed an approach over 7 long years to overcome the problems a typical man encounters with online dating.
Now, I never have to feel the frustrations of loneliness.
Or worry about growing old and dying alone.
You can stop feeling that way too.
On the next page, I'll show you my approach towards online dating, with a lovely woman I met from OkCupid. From match to date (twice).
Before we continue though, I need to clarify this.
If you believe only good-looking people will ever find love online, then it doesn't matter what I say.
Your mind would have been made up, and you would discount the success of my methods.
So you can stop here right now.
Don't get me wrong.
I'm not here to judge. Your beliefs have been shaped by your personal experiences, and I respect that.
But if you believe you can hack online dating to your advantage – even though you may not look like an Abercrombie model...
... if you're open to new ways of engaging women differently through dating apps...
... then I encourage you to keep reading.
You're about to discover a method I've used successfully for the last decade, that has allowed me to be in meaningful relationships with some truly amazing women.
And for the last 3 years, I've had the fortune of having a very caring and lovely girlfriend who's been an absolute gift.
Despite not being built like Liam Hemsworth.
Or handsome like Ryan Gosling.
In fact, I weighed only 120 pounds (55 kg) for most of my life.
Yet I've been able to consistently date beautiful women over the years, because of all the lessons I've learnt over the years...