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The Depressing Future of Online Dating For Men


"Desire is irrelevant. I am a machine."
- T-850
In a moment, I'll explain why I quoted Terminator 3 and how it's super relevant to online dating.

And why... as a single man, that quote should scare the bejesus out of you.

If you've been dating online, you know it can be a soul-crushing experience. Of ignored messages and an empty inbox.

This problem is not going away any time soon.

Like the Terminator movies, reality is about to get harsher.

Because online dating is evolving.

And its culture is being shaped mercilessly by demand. (More on this later.)

Tinder is the first sign of things to come.

It has made online dating incredibly easy with its “swipe and match”.

As a result, Tinder attracted an estimated 50 million users within 2 years.

Other dating apps were “forced” to copy it.

Apps such as Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Happn and Bumble.

Even OkCupid, an online dating giant, updated its app to allow swiping.

But Tinder is being criticized for its superficial nature. For encouraging “hooking up”.

The question is:

If dating apps are meant to create meaningful relationships, why is every dating app becoming like Tinder now?

The answer lies with you... the customer.

It's about capturing a massive subscriber base.

(Online dating generates hundreds of millions of dollars in revenue each year.)

So dating apps will continue to give people what they want.

What do people want?

They want easy.

This is why people buy lottery tickets.

This is why people would rather take a pill to lose weight, than put in effort to exercise and eat right.

But along with easy, comes sacrifice... at your expense.

Remember I said earlier demand is shaping online dating culture?

Tinder is doing that right now.

And it has influenced other companies. Dating apps are placing a bigger emphasis on photos now.

Because it's easy.

And the scary thing is... they can make it easier. Here's how.

It is increasingly likely the future of online dating will be in the hands of A.I.

What if A.I could make Tinder easier?

What if in the near future, a dating app allows a woman to specify the exact type of men she wishes to meet?

It would show her a sample of photos. Of different types of men.

And determine her taste based on how she swipes. Then, the app only shows her the type she likes.

Most men won't even get on her radar.

If you think women online are unrealistically picky now, imagine this.

What if a woman – who's maybe a 5 in looks – uses the A.I to look for men who are only 8 and above?

What if such an app becomes so popular, every app starts doing the same?

What if... women get so spoilt for choice, they take that extremely picky attitude into the real world?

Scared? You should be.

More and more people are dating online. It's a matter of time before A.I is used in dating apps.

But A.I does not give a shit whether you get a date or not.

It is a machine. Your desire is irrelevant.

Whoever uses A.I is only gonna care about making profits.

Right now, Tinder's algorithm is doing something similar.

OkCupid is already separating users based on attractiveness. (See image below.

OkCupid email screenshot

If online dating is messed up now, imagine a future where you won't even get scraps.

This future is already happening in Japan, under somewhat different circumstances.

"Nearly a third of Japanese people are entering their 30s without any sexual experience, according to research."

Their situation is so dire, someone saw the need to invent this:


The video above is a scary possibility for countless men dating online.

Because it's been one relentless rejection after another.

It's gotten so bad, men are experiencing the fear of having no one by your side when you're old.

On the other hand, women are having over-abundant choices.

A decently attractive woman can create an online dating account, and effortlessly hit 50 messages in a few hours.

That's easily triple of what most men are ever getting in a year.

As men, we really do need to step up our game.

That does not mean we suck, but we're definitely not showing our better qualities faster.

Qualities that take time to discover.

Time women are not willing to spare, when there are 117 and more messages waiting.

So you need to do more than just highlight your qualities faster and better.

You need to refine your approach with online dating itself.

That means taking care of your Big 4:

  1. Learning to take amazing photos so you look like someone she wants to meet,

  2. Writing a captivating profile to make her want to message you,

  3. Having first messages that make you stand out from the crowd,

  4. Building quick connections over conversation to get a date (without the flaking).


And the approach needs to be simple.

Because nothing is more frustrating than spending all that energy... only to end up alone on weekends and holidays. Wondering if you're doomed to be single forever.

When instead... you could be out enjoying the company of a desirable woman.

Learning more about her interests.

Connecting emotionally as you gaze into each other's eyes.

As you know it's a matter of time before you kiss.

For the longest time, that was my reality with different women.

I'm not going to brag and tell you beautiful women are lining up to chase me every day. That life belongs to the Dan Bilzerians of this world.

It's a fantasy most men – even the good-looking ones – will never get to experience.

But I was able to get beautiful women interested in dating me. And even though it doesn't happen every time, we'd often end up in bed and/or a relationship.

I was living a lifestyle that almost never happens to a guy like me.

While other men struggled to get a reply, I was building deeper connections with women over wine.

That's possible only because I spent more than half a decade getting rejected hundreds of times.

But all that pain and anguish paid off... as I developed an approach over 7 long years to overcome the problems a typical man encounters with online dating.

Now, I never have to feel the frustrations of loneliness.

Or worry about growing old and dying alone.

You can stop feeling that way too.

On the next page, I'll show you my approach towards online dating, with a lovely woman I met from OkCupid.  From match to date (twice).

Before we continue though, I need to clarify this.

If you believe only good-looking people will ever find love online, then it doesn't matter what I say.

Your mind would have been made up, and you would discount the success of my methods.

So you can stop here right now.

Don't get me wrong.

I'm not here to judge.  Your beliefs have been shaped by your personal experiences, and I respect that.

But if you believe you can hack online dating to your advantage – even though you may not look like an Abercrombie model...

... if you're open to new ways of engaging women differently through dating apps...

... then I encourage you to keep reading.

You're about to discover a method I've used successfully for the last decade, that has allowed me to be in meaningful relationships with some truly amazing women.

And for the last 3 years, I've had the fortune of having a very caring and lovely girlfriend who's been an absolute gift.

Despite not being built like Liam Hemsworth.

Or handsome like Ryan Gosling.

In fact, I weighed only 120 pounds (55 kg) for most of my life.

Yet I've been able to consistently date beautiful women over the years, because of all the lessons I've learnt over the years...
Continue > The Case Study
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The Authentic Gentleman aims to help the good man find love in today's digital dating landscape.
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