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A personality-driven conversation system that helps you convey your attractive qualities, and build a genuine connection with women faster. On the apps, on a first date, or anywhere a conversation starts.
How it started
My FWB and I were lying in bed one night (two months after we met) when she said there was something she wanted to talk about.
She was headed overseas for work after the weekend, and felt this was the best time to speak her mind.
She seemed hesitant.
Things up till then had been great. 2 months of insatiable, hungry and passionate sex. We were having the time of our lives.
Still apprehensive, she finally said she was catching feelings. And then…
“I don’t know if I can keep doing this as a casual thing.”
I paused and looked at her.
What she didn’t know was, I had a feeling this was gonna happen. It was just a matter of time. I saw it coming because the both of us truly enjoyed each other’s company.
About a week prior, I had thought about our situation. I was convinced given a few more months, we would become exclusive. I was so confident she would say yes to being my girlfriend if I asked.
Because our connection was stronger than any other I’ve had. My relationship with my ex of 5 years 6 months (let’s call her Pam) didn’t come close to this amazing feeling.
But I figured waiting another 1-2 months would be less hasty, and so I didn’t mention anything.
“So do you want to make this exclusive?”
And now she’s raised the topic first.
It still felt a bit strange seeing the dynamic flip. In the past 3-4 years, I’ve had more women catch feelings for me as compared to before.
Ever since the breakup with Pam, I’d gone through a self development journey. It was a striking change in the physical, character and mindset.
Simply put, I leveled up a fair bit.
When that happened, my dates got better. More attractive women gave me attention, and a lot more stayed beyond the first date.
This self development journey brought about a heightened awareness in what I was doing right in my dating life, because I deliberately took the time out to think and reflect.
And that was how I came up with the Affinity Method.
The Conversation Game-Plan
Almost every match-to-date conversation runs through the same path. Tap a stage to see what it does, and the smaller pieces that live underneath it.
Instead of firing off questions, you share glimpses of yourself and get her agreeing with you on small things. Small agreements lead to big. Stack a few yeses and the vibe turns warm. Let her relate to you instead of answering questions.
What lives underneath it
Drop a place and a thing you'd do together into the conversation, as a scene, not a question. Her imagination does the heavy lifting, so she's already warm to the idea long before you ever suggest it out loud.
What lives underneath it
Do that two or three times. Let her anticipate more, without you becoming the creep she's already met seven times this week. Lead with awareness, create a sense of familiarity, and she will feel safe by the time you make a move.
What lives underneath it
Done with intent and authenticity, these three components lead the conversation here naturally: to a date, and to whatever the both of you want. You're not forcing any outcomes. She wants this as much as you do.
This is where the game-plan is heading the whole time. Every move before it exists to make this feel like the natural next step for both of you.
This isn't a straight line. You keep building rapport while you foreshadow, and you keep the banter alive even as the tension rises. The one constant is that you lead: that's how the conversation moves from rapport, to foreshadowing, to tension, and eventually to a date.
What it is
We use an approach called Quick Rapport from the first moment we get to know a woman.
Instead of asking her multiple questions like every other man, we aim to build a connection by showing her quick glimpses of who we are and being relatable.
So instead of relating to her, we reverse the dynamic and get her to relate to us.
When she does so, she ends up feeling a sense of connection. This naturally makes her want to share more about herself, and that opens up the interaction so much faster.
If you’ve texted women who reply with very short answers, you’d know how frustrating that can be. But when a woman texts longer replies, it just becomes easier to have deeper conversations.
This creates a sense of familiarity and mutual interest, because as people, we feel drawn to those who are similar to ourselves.
The end result? She feels a sense of affinity from meeting you.
And instead of withholding her time and effort, now she’s more willing to get to know you better because her curiosity is sparked, and she wants to know how much more similar the both of you can be.
The Affinity Method also believes in being authentic, so our concepts of Quick Rapport, Foreshadowing, and Sexualization are simply methods of communication you already know and have been using since forever. We’re merely making you aware of what works and what doesn’t.
The difference
There are no cheap tricks here. No frame control, no manipulation, no canned routines run at her until something works. The Affinity Method asks for something harder and simpler: become a man genuinely worth investing time and energy into — then learn to convey that.
That is the difference between this and a script. Memorised lines work right up until a real person says something unexpected. A framework built on your own values, awareness, and mindset bends with the conversation instead of breaking.
Where it works
I’ve used The Affinity Method successfully on online dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel and Happn), first dates and beyond, random approaches on the streets, in bars/clubs, as well as in social settings.
It can work anywhere simply because conveying your attractiveness, and creating authentic connections with women is not limited to any particular setting.
If you’ve failed at understanding women and how to attract and date them for the longest time, you’ll find the Affinity Method is insanely effective at getting you long-lasting results.
Students
Here are some of what our students have said after putting the system into practice. Tap any screenshot to enlarge.
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