Honest answers.
No fluff.

To be fair, no advice will work if you do not put in the effort as well. Over the years, I've had a tiny number of clients who blame the world but fail to take responsibility for their inaction. I had a client who applied the lessons for less than a month, then disappeared for six. Every time he comes back, it's because he saw some loving couple during a holiday season. 5 years later, his pattern didn't change.

But to answer this question, our advice has always been based in permanent solutions. Cheap tricks, easy answers are very common in the world of dating advice, and we strive to avoid them because real solutions are rooted in the quality of your character. So we aim to bring you up as a person, rather than offer a one-liner that gets her attention today but loses her tomorrow. If you are happy to invest in your own personal development, then you'll love what we offer. Start by reading our blog or getting us on a free consultation call.

As someone who used to be heavily involved in the PUA community, I have the benefit of having seen things from the inside, and seeing things from the outside. Some teachings capture the dynamics of the man-woman relationship well, but most are flawed.

The problem with PUAs is, they develop their techniques based on what they observe from men who are good with women. So most PUA coaches end up creating techniques based on that. But an observation is only as good as your blindspot. That means, if you are paying attention to the surface level of someone's actions, your understanding is superficial.

And they fail to understand how other factors in the man's (who's good with women) life effects his interactions with women. For example, most PUAs don't even realize that lifestyle is important in keeping the woman in their lives. They spend all their time going out and approaching, obsessing over what they say, but never actually build an attractive lifestyle. One that a woman would love to be a part of. An attractive lifestyle also makes conversation much simpler, because you can share with her all the interesting things you do and enjoy. And then PUAs wonder why their conversations dry up so quickly, when they have nothing else going on in their lives.

So yes, this is very different from PUA stuff. We focus on making you desirable, not giving you techniques that catches her attention for a week.

The Affinity Method is a personality-driven conversation game-plan that helps convey your attractive qualities quickly and effectively to women. It can be used for texting, as well as in-person conversation. There are no lines involved, no weird technique like “frame control”, because we don't believe you need to control or dominate anyone. We believe in building strong characters, because she falls in love with who you are ultimately, not what you do. Read What is the Affinity Method to better understand our system.

It is no surprise if you aren't. Because no one taught you how to be. But if your friends have laughed at something you've said before, then you can be funny. You just don't know the formula for being so. Likewise, you don't know what being charming means. And we can give you the tools to become that, because we've broken down the formula for it.

In fact, one of the very first few lessons you'll learn in the Affinity Method course is how to flirt well. We break down the formula for you because we've done it easily hundreds of times. I dare say thousands, but that's over the course of my entire life. So, the question is, are you willing to put in the effort to practice on the formulas? If so, then you won't have a problem. What we teach only gets you 20% of your success. The remaining 80% boils down to your willingness to develop yourself as a person.

If your looks are a problem, then just groom yourself. That's the real answer I am giving you today. I have seen men upgrade their looks by at least 2 points (hate to use the point system, but you get the idea) just by getting a good haircut. There is no excuse for not making yourself look good, because it makes you feel good as well when you step out into the world.

But the truth is, for most of you... it's not looks. It's your self belief. If you cannot overcome the idea that women can and will like you for who you are, then nothing you do will help.

I'm born in 1981. I got good with women in my mid 30s. You can definitely do this. The question is, are you willing to? The skillsets you will learn are relevant to people of all ages and nationalities, simply because we focus on what makes humans tick. For example, building a connection with someone, across all ages and nationalities, have been the same for centuries and it's not due to change any time soon. So you will be fine.

Absolutely not. But plenty of people use authenticity as an excuse not to become a better person. They think that staying the same forever means staying true to who they are, but in reality, people change all the time. Who you are today is shaped by so many factors like your environment. That also means your lived experiences can make you grow to be a different person tomorrow.

Here at the Authentic Gentleman, we want that growth to be intentional. We don't want to wake up one day 5 years into the future and realize we've become a version of ourselves that we don't like. So you have to want to become a better partner. That is how we operate, and that willingness to become better is part of the reason why our students are desired by women.

We have no need to trick women, because we believe in using the strength of our character to show her that we're worth investing in. Likewise, we want our type of women to be someone who doesn't play games or be manipulative with us as well.

The communication skills we teach are already things you do naturally in your relationships with the people around you. What we're merely doing is shine a light on what you've been doing right and wrong, and help you do more of the right and less of the wrong.

So the skills are absolutely transferrable between the online and the real world. In fact, our conversation system is so simple it takes away a lot of your confusion and helps focus on being in the moment with your love interest.

Absolutely. The core principles of our conversation system applies the same, regardless of where you're from. Culture may play a part in the nuance of how we communicate with each other, but the way we connect has always been universal. We like people who are similar to us, and we connect very deeply on our beliefs and values. Every nationality and every race does that too. So you have absolutely nothing to worry about.

We had students who got themselves a date within hours of applying the strategies they learnt from one lesson.

We also had students who struggled, because they refuse to apply the lessons, and believe they are smarter and can succeed their own way. The same students often come back months later, and reveal they should've done as they were told, because they actually saw results the moment they applied our lessons.

So the question is, which category of students do you belong to?

The free eBook is a starting guide to the wonderful possibilities that lie ahead for you. Even through applying the lessons we outlined in the free eBook, you will be able to see positive results, like having the woman more interested in texting you. Or even asking you out.

But the course is a different beast. It gives you a very detailed blueprint on what you need to do every step of the way. No student of ours have ever expressed regret from learning what we teach in our course, because it's so damn effective.

But we understand if you are skeptical. So our suggestion is that you stick around. Read our blog. Join our Discord community. The more you talk to us, the more you'll realize what we teach and how we live by example is evidence of how our dating philosophy has stood the test of time. And we invite you to join us on this journey. We promise you will not regret a single second of it.