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My FWB and I were lying in bed one night — 2 months after we met — when she said there was something she wanted to talk about.
She was headed overseas for work after the weekend, and felt this was the best time to speak her mind.
She seemed hesitant.
Things up till then had been great. 2 months of insatiable, hungry and passionate sex. We were having the time of our lives.
Still apprehensive, she finally said she was catching feelings. And then…
“I don’t know if I can keep doing this as a casual thing.”
I paused and looked at her.
What she didn’t know was, I had a feeling this was gonna happen. It was just a matter of time. I saw it coming because the both of us truly enjoyed each other’s company.
About a week prior, I had thought about our situation. I was convinced given a few more months, we would become exclusive. I was so confident she would say yes to being my girlfriend if I asked.
Because our connection was stronger than any other I’ve had. My relationship with my ex of 5 years 6 months (let’s call her Pam) didn’t come close to this amazing feeling.
But I figured waiting another 1-2 months would be less hasty, and so I didn’t mention anything.
“So do you want to make this exclusive?”
And now she’s raised the topic first.
It still felt a bit strange seeing the dynamic flip. In the past 3-4 years, I’ve had more women catch feelings for me as compared to before.
Ever since the breakup with Pam, I’d gone through a self development journey. It was a striking change in the physical, character and mindset.
Simply put, I leveled up a fair bit.
When that happened, my dates got better. More attractive women gave me attention, and a lot more stayed beyond the first date.
This self development journey brought about a heightened awareness in what I was doing right in my dating life, because I deliberately took the time out to think and reflect.
And that was how I came up with the Affinity Method.
This is the conversation game-plan for the Affinity Method.
If you think that looks complicated, it’s not. Because this is all you need to remember for now:
The Affinity Method is a personality-driven system designed to help you convey your attractive qualities verbally, and develop a deeper connection with women faster.
We use an approach called Quick Rapport from the first moment we get to know a woman.
Instead of asking her multiple questions like every other man, we aim to build a connection by showing her quick glimpses of who we are and being relatable.
So instead of relating to her, we reverse the dynamic and get her to relate to us.
When she does so, she ends up feeling a sense of connection. This naturally makes her want to share more about herself, and that opens up the interaction so much faster.
If you’ve texted women who reply with very short answers, you’d know how frustrating that can be. But when a woman texts longer replies, it just becomes easier to have deeper conversations.
This creates a sense of familiarity and mutual interest, because as people, we feel drawn to those who are similar to ourselves.
The end result?
She feels a sense of affinity from meeting you.
And instead of withholding her time and effort, now she’s more willing to get to know you better because her curiosity is sparked, and she wants to know how much more similar the both of you can be.
The Affinity Method also believes in being authentic, so our concepts of Quick Rapport, Foreshadowing, and Sexualization are simply methods of communication you already know and have been using since forever.
We’re merely making you become aware of what works and what doesn’t.
You do not have to play games or indulge in cheap tricks to get the woman of your dreams.
But it will NOT work for you… if you do not have a personal development mindset. You have to be willing to improve yourself to see results.
And if you identify yourself as a PUA, then you need to be willing to stop doing that.
Because the Affinity Method is NOT some PUA system that encourages you to behave unnaturally with women, or use psychological techniques like “frame control” to make women believe you’re a “high-value alpha male”.
We do not believe you have to be someone you are not, just so you can have the dating life you want.
But we do believe you have to become better. And along with the Authentic Gentleman Blueprint, it makes you a man she wants to invest her time and energy into.
You can also use this in any environment with women.
I’ve used The Affinity Method successfully on online dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Okcupid, Coffee Meets Bagel and Happn), first dates and beyond, random approaches on the streets, in bars/clubs, as well as in social settings.
It can work anywhere simply because conveying your attractiveness, and creating authentic connections with women is not limited to any particular setting.
If you’ve failed at understanding women and how to attract and date them for the longest time, you’ll find the Affinity Method is insanely effectively at getting you long-lasting results.
Here are some of what our students have said, after they’ve learnt and put our unique system to practice:
So here’s your next step:
Download our FREE pdf and learn by example immediately.
You’ll get screenshots of a REAL Tinder conversation that ended up as a same-night date. You’ll see what my thought process and mindset is when it comes to meeting and attracting a woman via online dating.
I sincerely believe the best way to learn is by example, so the PDF will give you valuable insight into how you can get dates from dating apps easily.
After that, consume our blog posts and learn the strategies we’ve shared with you.
And don’t forget to ask any questions you have by making a comment on the blog post!
